Activity: “Make Your Own Bed”
The following activity appears in Lesson 5. The teacher is to:
“Ask for 13 volunteers – eight girls and five guys – and give each a sign with a name on it to hold. Spread out the sheet, blanket, or quilt. Explain that this is Michael and Makayla’s wedding bed. [The school will not use the quilt but instead have the students stand at the front of the class, or something similar] Instruct each person to sit on the marriage bed as his or her name is called. Read the following story.
Say: Makayla is 23 years old and a registered nurse. Michael is an architect who is 25. Makayla and Michael have just been married and are in the honeymoon suite aboard a luxury cruise ship. Dim lights, fragrant roses, champagne with strawberries, and romantic music set the mood. The scene is set for a beautiful beginning of their sexual lives together. Everything is perfect … but they have company.
Makayla considers herself a woman of high values and morals. Prior to meeting Michael, Makayla had only one sexual relationship with a guy named Nathan, whom she really loved at the time. Nathan had two previous sexual partners, Elizabeth and Megan. Megan had one previous sexual partner names Sean. Sean had no previous partner, nor did Elizabeth.
Michael always thought of himself as a man with goals and plans for his future. In his past, however, he had a serious relationship that involved sex with Brianna. Michael also had two casual sexual relationships with Emma and Rachel. Before she met Michael, Brianna had been sexually active with Carlos, who had had one other relationship – Maria. Maria had no other relationships. Emma, however, had been sexually active with Daniel who had one previous relationship with Lauren. Lauren and Rachel had no previous partners.
Ask: What risks are Makayla and Michael taking into their marriage? How much of a threat are these previous sexual partners? (Remind teens of the freedoms they listed earlier in the session.)
Say: What if Makayla had realized that she might fall in love with several different people before she got married? What if Makayla had realized that feelings of love shouldn’t control her decisions? If she had known this, than Nathan, Elizabeth, Megan and Sean would not have been there. …
Ask: What can you learn from this exercise? (The best way to prepare for the future is to be abstinent until marriage).” (Choosing the Best Path, Leader Guide, Third Edition, p. 29, emphasis added)